Saturday, June 6, 2009

I believe..............

You should treat others as you wish to be treated. Always. If you are having a bad day, and you slip, apologise ASAP - and mean it!

That giving up is not an acceptable option. As long as you draw breath, you fight.

It's ok to listen to gossip, but not to pass it on. By listening, you offer an ear to someone who wants to share. By shutting up, you protect someone else.

That respect is to be earnt, by going the hard yards. Age, superior rank in a workplace, a uniform - these things do not earn respect. Deference, yes, respect, no.

That there are a lot of shades of grey out there; not everything is so clear-cut as to be black and white.

We should all remember that being alive is different to living.

Any day above ground is a good one.

Skin colour and country of origin are irrelevent - we all share the same planet, and we all bleed red.

That it is better for an innocent man to go to gaol, than 1 child to suffer at the hands of a monster. Even now. Perhaps more than ever now.

War is evil. But something that the human race cannot seem to get away from. To quote The Boss - "War! What is it good for? Absolutely NOTHIN'!"

As evil as war is, those who fight in them generally aren't. War strips all involved of their humanity. And still, we ship our children off to fight..........

That people need to know you appreciate them/what they do for you. Never assume that they know, always tell them. A simple "Thanks for that" can make the difference in someone's day.

We would do well to remember we were young, 10 feet tall and bullet proof once, and will one day be old, crotchety and most likely frail.

Nothing is worth more than that which you earnt by honest labour.

That no matter what, the best thing you can do in any circumstance is to hold your head high, even when you want to slink away with your tail between your legs.

What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger. Although, some days, you will wish it would kill you. Quickly.

Love is not a given, and there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. Love changes and grows, just as we do. That's why it takes work.

That The Notebook would be close to the saddest movie ever. And that I will always cry when I watch it.

It is definitely better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved.

That you must live and die by your principles. These are the beliefs and morals that define you, and while they may change as you grow older, and experience more, anyone who does a complete 180 for no apparent reason, is not to be trusted. Ever.

There is no such thing as a fair fight. Especially with someone you love. We all say hurtful, nasty things when we are angry. The trick is, realise you do this, avoid it if you can, and if you slip (we are only human) apologise. They will forgive you enventually. In the meantime, let it go, there are only so many times and ways you can say "Sorry!"

It is sometimes better to walk away, than stand and fight. Apply this ahead of the above, and you will save yourself a lot of grief.

That your gut is always right. Always. Listen to it. And accept that it's going to have off days too, and will let scum slip through. Wear what happens, and move on.

We should all find at least 1 thing, every day, that is beautiful, and take time to appreciate it.

That criticism is often a mask for jealousy or insecurity. Take it with a grain of salt. Analyse it when the critic isn't around, work out if they were genuine, or if there was an underlying cause. If you can use their suggestion (as in, it's constructive), do so, and acknowledge their help. If not, forget what they said.

Nothing we do will ever be good enough for some people. That's their problem, not ours.

That being true to yourself is far more important than fitting in with the crowd.

You should smile at everyone who looks you in the face. It's amazing how much better that can make someone feel.

That you can't decide who your friends or family will love. And, even if you loathe the person they choose, you have to grin and bear it.

Sometimes, no matter how much it hurts your heart or your pride, you have to walk away.

That sometimes, even the strongest of us need to ask for help. And that there is no shame in that.

It is better to regret the things you did than the things you didn't. I want to look back over my life, and say "well, it wasn't perfect, but it was one helluva ride!"

That no matter what, there will always be some form of regret, most likely from something you did or didn't do when you were too young to realise that you and everyone you loved weren't going to live forever.

That whoever said, "The pain will pass" about someone dying was full of shit. It doesn't pass, ever. It changes, so that it doesn't feel like someone has ripped your heart out, but it still hurts. And in some ways, that dull ache, and the hole where they should be in your life, is worse.


  1. Every now and again I read something that makes me stop, take a good hard look at how I want to live my life, and think wow. This is one of those things.

  2. Yes I believe in karma too...